And The Winner Is: Fantasy Blow Job Happy Ending Indeed

What makes for the perfect blow job?
For Part 1 Click Here:  Maybe I Should Change My Flight
We barely made it to the jetway in time for our flight.
The first time I can ever remember being late for a first class flight. I love to take advantage of the perks. You walked on ahead of me. You knew full well that I wouldn't be able to take my eyes off that luscious ass, still damp from our romp in the airport bar.
"Ticket please," said the perky flight attendant, interrupting my thoughts. I quickly pressed the ticket into her hand and turned away to hide the bulge in my pants. Luckily, I had my jacket over my arm and could positioned it strategically. By the time I got into the plane, you had taken your seat and patted the one next to you as a welcome. "You don't know my name, do you?" you smirked. Shoot, busted.

She had me so excited at the airport I skipped right past the formality of an introduction.  It was probably her hand on my thigh that did me in.
"No," I said and hung my head in shame.
"It's Angel." You laughed that laugh that I was becoming addicted too. "I ordered a couple of glasses of champagne."
I nodded my approval and smiled as you reached over and ran your fingernails in circles on my forearm, as if I needed anything else to get harder.  All I could think about was your mouth on me, sucking, kissing and nibbling. 

You sat there looking right at me moving your hand slowly up and down my arm. I could barely swallow.
"How quiet can you be?" you teased.
God. I couldn't wait to get off the ground.
"Can I get you anything else right now?" asked the flight attendant as she poured our champagne.

"Could you bring us a couple of blankets?" you asked acting as if you were cold. I knew damn well you were as hot as I was. Your hand dropped to my thigh and I quickly covered it with mine so that I didn't lose control.
My heart was pounding in my chest and I could barely contain myself. Breathing hard, I turned toward you and leaned in to kiss you. Your lips are full, soft and incredibly responsive to my touch. I kiss you gently, pulling away as the blankets arrived.
"Just married?" the attendant smiled.
Not hardly, I thought to myself. You glanced up at her and laughed quietly as you reached over to kiss my cheek. To think, we had met just three hours before. I've never been so happy to be on a red eye than I was that night.

The flight finally took off and we got to cruising altitude. It wasn't long before the lights were dimmed and the lone other passenger in front of us was snoring away. I reclined my seat and stretched out my legs. 

You reached over to me and turned my face toward you.
We kissed gently at first and then with more urgency. You slipped your tongue into my mouth and I gasped. You were so sure of yourself. I loved the feeling of your tongue running against my teeth. I sucked it in and you shivered in response. A moan came, we both paused for a second, looked at one another and laughed. This was so fucking hot.
You pulled away and started kissing the side of my neck. Your hand drifted down my chest toward my throbbing self. I shivered under your touch. God, I wanted you.

As if reading my mind, you slid off your seat and crawled under the blanket. God, kill me now. You tugged open my belt and unzipped me.
"I can't reach you," I hear your muffled whisper. "Take off your pants."
I obeyed immediately. You helped me pull them off and settled in between my now naked thighs.
When you kissed me, the first touch was like an electric shock.
Best Happy Ending??  Drum Roll.....
And The Winner Is:  Eddie R.  Check Out: The Happy Ending In The Mile High Club

3 Reasons (Some!) Women Don't Like Receiving Oral Sex

Why some ladies aren't crazy about their partner heading "downtown."
Taking a walk with some friends one day, sipping coffee and having one of those hilarious TMI sex conversations you sometimes slip into with people you know really well, I heard something that stopped me mid-iced latte. Totally casually, as though it was no big deal, a friend asked if the rest of us enjoyed receiving oral sex, because she really, well, didn't.
Say WHAT?!?!?

I couldn't believe it. How could you not enjoy something that is completely and totally dedicated to your pleasure, and yours alone? Surely she was alone in this, I thought. Not so! As soon as the question was posed, a definite majority of the group was on her side! Some disliked it altogether, some liked it OK but were pretty "meh" about the whole concept, and I was the only holdout for it being truly awesome.

I have to say, ladies, I just don't get it. When I got curious, I was presented with a few primary reasons for these women not being crazy about someone heading downtown.
Why don't some women like oral sex? Read the rest on CollegeCandy to find out: Heading South of My Border? Yessss, Please!
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This article was originally published at CollegeCandy. Reprinted with permission from the author.

The Secret To Giving Your Man The Most Powerful Orgasms EVER

Hint: Use the backdoor.
Is your guy curious about a prostate massage? Prostate massage is the hottest new trend in male sexuality: Doctors are recommending prostate massages as a preventive health practice, and men are reporting it brings them the best orgasms of their lives!
Here are answers to the most common questions we're asked about prostate massages and how to get started:
1. What Is A Prostate Massage?
A prostate massage (sometimes called prostate milking) is the direct stimulation of the prostate gland with a finger or a toy. The prostate is inside the male pelvis, surrounding the urethra. It contributes fluids to male ejaculation and muscles around the prostate contract with each orgasm. So the prostate has already been involved in every ejaculation your man has ever experienced.

Prostate massages simply highlight the sensations of the prostate, by applying direct pressure on this sensitive area. A prostate massage is most commonly done by inserting one or two fingers into the anus and massaging the prostate.
2. Why Is A Prostate Massage Healthy?
What exactly makes this massage healthy enough for doctors to recommending? Well, it's healthy for several reasons: It relaxes chronic tension in the pelvis, encourages fresh blood flow and stimulates fluid production.
Many prostate diseases have been related to stagnancy, as well as, tension in the prostate and surrounding muscles. Prostate massages keep the male sexual system healthy and also help detect any changes at the earliest stage, allowing men to seek medical help as soon as possible.

3. Why Is Prostate Massage Pleasurable?
Many guys report that prostate massages create the most powerful, pleasurable orgasms they've ever experienced.
Before you even get to the prostate, a good prostate massage activates and stimulates the thousands of nerve endings in the external anal area. Once you are inside, massaging the prostate directly creates a deep, pleasurable sensation of it's own. Finally, with a prostate massage you're stimulating the internal root of the penis, allowing men to feel erotic sensations starting deep within and extending out the entire length of their penis.
Prostate massage orgasms reportedly feel more explosive, more profound, and deeply satisfying. 

4. Does Wanting Prostate Massage Make Him Gay or Bisexual?
Some women fear that the desire for prostate massage means their man is secretly gay or bisexual. We're committed to ending this myth once and for all — every man's sexual system is created equally.
All men, no matter who they partner with, can enjoy stimulating their entire sexual system, which includes the anus and prostate. Anal stimulation and prostate massages feel erotic and create orgasms because that is how nature designed our bodies.
5. Ready to Explore Prostate Massage? Start Here!
As more men and their partners explore the pleasures of prostate massages, we hope there will be more honest conversations about how hot and healthy it is! We've been teaching men and women around the world about prostate massages since 2005. As producers of the world's bestselling video on prostate massage, we have heard from thousands of couples who successfully expanded their sex life by exploring prostate massage. Trust us, it's a pleasure worth exploring.

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5 Ways To Have Incredible Sex WITHOUT Taking Your Clothes OFF

Being naked is highly overrated!
The best kind of hot sex involves passionate love making with naked bodies in intense situations, right? At least that's what we're told.
For many women, when we think about having sex, we instantly associate it with being fully naked. So what happens on the nights (once you're settled into marriage or a relationship) when all you may want to do is climb into your PJs and crawl into bed?
The last thing on your mind is getting naked, and so ... requests for sex from your partner aren't very appealing.
Sometimes the thought of "getting naked" is a huge deterrent to intimacy.
But, let's be honest — in real relationships, after awhile, sex is no longer always hot and sweaty. It's not always intense and dripping in juicy flow. In fact, in many relationships, sex may not exist at all. True love making takes emotional work, connection, and communication.

So, is that your only two options — full nudity or no sex at all? The answer is: Nope! There's a pretty fantastic third option.
Every once in awhile, I suggest keeping your clothes on to experience sex.
Why? Because great sex is not about naked bodies writhing all over each other trying to cum and get off on a climax. (Although climax is an amazing experience, it is also just one small part of having amazing sex.)
Sacred sex is about intimacy, connection, and relationship building. And starting with your clothes on (and experiencing arousal fully-clothed) is an amazing way to grant yourself the permission to enjoy pleasure in a sacred, more intimate way.
Although this might seem boring compared to the hot, sweaty sex you see in the movies, trust me ... it's not ... at all!

With clothes on, the build up of anticipation and excitement can produce amazing orgasmic sex if initiated with care and compassion. Your clothes are a boundary that separates intercourse from sexual arousal and play. And it is in the dance of increasing arousal that your experience of sex becomes more fulfilling and powerful.
Keeping yourself clothed, at least partially, is a major turn-on. Clothing creates a sensation of suspense. And in essence, the clothes create a safe space for self-expression that may not exist otherwise, especially when body image and self-esteem are at risk.
Instead, your sexual connection builds from slow and sensual intimate practices that steadily excite and arouse orgasmic pleasure. And it is OK to start and end without getting naked.
The secret to an amazing sexual experience is creating a loving connection. And connection can happen  right where you are, in the moment, with your clothes on. (And some of the best orgasmic feelings can happen fully-clothed.)

So for a moment, let's let go of the need for total nakedness! Here are some arousing ways you can use clothing to enhance sex:
1. Let clothing remind you to ... slow down
Use striptease as a way to prolong the experience and build anticipation. Take off each other's clothes slowly, revealing different parts of the body. Slowing down the process gives you time to explore different parts of the body and really feel each area as it's revealed.
Rather than ripping off each other's clothes or rushing the process, use clothing for exploration and excitement. Lift and peek under the clothing and use it as an adventure of discovery.

2. Play with a vibrator
When you're seriously stressed or turned off. give your body plenty of time to reach arousal. Your partner can slide a vibrator down your pants or use it gently over clothing. And then slowly, begin to remove your clothes as you feel ready to explore more deeply.
When you're turned off, the power of allowing vibration your clothes on can give you the sexual energy you need to move into the next phase of sexual play.  
3. Treat yourself to a fully-clothed orgasm
See how long you can stay fully clothed and how excited you can get just by connecting, kissing and sliding around on each other. Use intimate sexual positions to enhance the overall connection you feel during your make-out session. The connection alone is enough to turn you on.

Leaving your clothes on can generate friction and new sexy experience that results in a surprisingly fantastic orgasm.
4. Take only your bottoms off
Keeping your top on creates an amazing feeling of safety for sexual foreplay. Foreplay can have an immediate effect if the connection concentrates down in the pelvis. When you keep your top half clothed, you can then play down low with a sense of direction and focus. Men can focus on the female clitoris and turning on sensation. And women can focus on the penis. This focus alone can produce amazing results.
You can reverse the foreplay and take off your tops and using nipple stimulation and kissing to stimulate arousal.

5. Wear erotic clothing (and have sex with high heels on)
Enhance your sexual play with sexy and erotic clothes, especially wearing high heels or thigh high boots as you wrap your legs around your lover's body.
Start with a discussion about which type of erotic clothing is a turn on (for each of you). Decide what your ideal fantasy outfit is, and then shop for it together.
The alluring sight and texture of that sexy ensemble can heighten arousal and incite new levels of passion and sexual play. The more erotic the clothes, the sexier you'll feel and the hotter the experience may become.

Remember, your clothes are an extension of your personal expression and sexuality. So let every side of you out to play.
So there you have it — five fun ways to leave your clothes on and enjoy a sex life more amazing than you've ever experienced before!

9 Steps Guaranteed To Give Her The BEST Oral Orgasm Of Her LIFE

Mind BLOWN.
You probably already know that women can have many different types of orgasms, but most guys never really take advantage of it. One of the easiest ways to set yourself apart as a world-class lover is to combine two or more of these orgasms into one extremely INTENSE orgasmic eruption.
The cunnilingus technique you’re about to learn is going to stimulate three of her "orgasm triggers" at the same time, giving her incredibly powerful, mind-numbing sensations. Here’s how to do it:
1. As always, start with some good foreplay.
Use your very best foreplay techniques to get her to the point where she only has her panties on. Kiss her entire body. Take your time, and take the time to FEEL her body with your lips.

Lick, kiss and suck every inch of her breasts EXCEPT her nipples. Once you’ve done this, stick your tongue straight out and use the tip of it to make circles around her nipple ... not quite touching it yet. This creates anticipation and a desire for you to touch her nipples.
After a couple of minutes, finally let her nipples enjoy a few licks and LIGHT sucks. You can LIGHTLY bite and tug on them too.
2. Start your SLOW journey down south.
Work your way down while continuing to lick, kiss and suck every inch of her until you reach the area directly above her pubic mound. Spend a little extra time here because it’s one of those erogenous zones that’s incredibly sensitive, yet most guys never focus on.
3. DON'T rip off the panties!  

Move down to her panties, and instead of doing what most guys do and just trying to remove them right away, lick and kiss her clit THROUGH her panties. Make a wet spot with you saliva on them directly above her clit.

Now pull your head back a few inches and LIGHTLY blow on the wet spot you just made to give her indirect clitoral contact that’ll have her begging for more.
By this point she should be ready and wanting to get those darn panties out of the way but if she hasn’t, grab her ankles, lift them up and spend a minute or two kissing her feet, ankles and legs. Slowly slip her panties off while you continue kissing and licking and place both her legs over each of your shoulders.
Watch the 67 ways to make her come first video to learn how to be the best she's ever had... guaranteed!
4. Once you've taken her panties are off, avoid the clitoris.

Use a flat tongue to lick her outer vaginal lips (the ones that have pubic hair if she doesn’t shave).

Suck on her outer lips and tug them away from her body with the pressure of your suck. Get these lips nice and wet with your saliva then lightly pinch and tug on them with your thumbs and index fingers.
5. Use your hands to get things going.
Use one hand to spread her lips open and wet the tip of your index finger. Now lightly rub the tip of that finger against her u-spot (the area between her vaginal opening and clitoris). It’s very sensitive and is capable of experiencing LOTS of pleasure!

Alternate between pointed tongue licks and wet fingertip strokes to this rarely touched hot spot.
6. Start using your mouth to up the excitement.
Place your lips around her clitoral shaft and suck it into your mouth. Move your head up and down tugging her clit further away from her body and then back again.
Do NOT let your lips make contact with her clit yet… you’re still teasing her and building anticipation by sucking only on the shaft of her clit. And don’t be afraid to go a little faster and tug away a bit further — most guys don’t realize just how much a vulva can take.

Just make sure to pay attention to her reactions and adjust based on the feedback you get. Now you’re going to start bringing closer to the edge.
7. Place your palm on her pubic bone.
Without applying any more pressure to her clitoris, use your palm to put a little pressure on her pubic bone as you use your thumb and index fingers to roll her clitoral shaft.
8. Insert a finger (palm up) to start massaging her g-spot.
With your fingers on the inside of her massaging her g-spot up, and your palm on the outside pressing down, you’re “sandwiching” her g-spot from both ends. While you're doing this, keep using the hand on her pubic bone to continue playing with her clitoral shaft.

Once she starts to move around a bit, start licking her clitoris.
9. When you’re ready to make her orgasm, start sucking on her clitoris.
At this point she may feel like she needs to pee. When you use this technique, it's a good idea to have her go to the washroom BEFORE you start and make sure her bladder is empty. If she's done that, when she gets to this point, tell her to relax and let it out while you keep going — this is the key to a mind-blowing (and sometimes squirting) orgasm!
This orgasm formula is incredibly powerful and always lots of fun... but it's only 1 way to make a woman come. Watch the 67 ways to make her come first video to give her more different types of orgasms in one sweaty weekend together, then you did in all of last year.

This Volunteer Organization Gives Back To Humanity—With Handjobs

Hand Angel gives out handies to those who are unable to give themselves one.
We live in an imperfect world. In this imperfect world, although we all created equal, it doesn’t mean we are all the same. Some of us are more privileged than others, some of us are taller than others, chubbier than most, funnier than their siblings, and, yes, some of us are unable to give ourselves an orgasm at any moment we choose. It’s a tragic state of affairs for that latter group, but, as I said, this world is imperfect, and life just isn’t always fair.
But the best thing about a world where there is a bit of imbalance is that those who have what others are lacking are always willing to step up the plate and help out. Volunteer work has become a part of our culture and humanity, and now such giving of oneself can be found in the form of handjob. Yes, a handjob.

Hand Angel, a Taiwan based organization, is out there pretty much doing god’s work, by giving handjobs to those who are unable to give themselves one. As Vice reports:

"Taiwan—officially known as the Republic of China—has one of the best health systems in the world; its million or so disabled citizens receive some of the most thorough medical attention you’ll find, including everything from long-term care to traditional herbal medicine. What they don’t receive from this system, however, is any kind of aid when it comes to slightly more intimate issues, namely: orgasms. It was for this reason that a group of social campaigners and volunteers took it upon themselves to create Hand Angel, an NGO whose main service is giving handjobs to the severely disabled."
It might seem strange, vulgar, or even perverse, but as the organization explains, disabled people are just as sexual as the next person, but sadly they’re often desexualized. This isn’t fair, nor is it right.
As of right now the group is only 10 people deep, and they cover a wide array of backgrounds: men, women, straight, and gay. The handjob services also allows for hugging and kissing, but penetration is off limits, because, you know, prostitution. While there isn’t any information on how much these saints are getting paid, personally, I’d love to know.

I’ve been looking for a side job and a way to build up my arm muscles. For me, this arrangement would be win-win—oh, and I’d be giving back to humanity, so that would be awesome of me, too.

6 Ways Turn Your Boring Sex Life Into An Erotic Orgasm Fest

For some couples tender intimacy precludes passionate, erotic sex. How to rediscover lust.
Intense passion and loving intimacy can co-exist, but most couples struggle to merge erotic sex with tender love. Women don't want to feel objectified to the absence of caring, and couples get bored if their sex lives are completely devoid of heat.
Here are some things you can try to merge tenderness and sexual heat. As you try the exercises, practice seeing your partner as someone you love who also deserves to feel the intensity of your desire and lust. Allow these exercises to move into intense passion.
What starts as gentle play can easily become deliciously hot, but you have to be willing. Don't take any of the exercises too seriously, however. Playfulness is always welcome as long as you don't make fun of your partner.

1. Experiment with a light touch on non-sexual parts of the body, such as the palms of the hands, the neck, the face, and the thighs.Take turns and concentrate on the love you feel for your partner, allowing your arousal to rise naturally from your feelings of affection. Occasionally look into each other's eyes and giggle if the urge strikes.
Continue to touch until you feel like you can't stand it unless you make love. Couples often disconnect from both love and lust because they never give their passion time to build to a sense of urgency.


2. Massages are a great way to get turned on, but you can also use them to feel closer to one another.
Use scented oil, which will increase the sensuality factor, and connect to the beauty of your partner's body by closing your eyes. You can even imagine that you're a sculptor creating this body in clay. As you rub, tell your partner what you love about his or her body.
Examples: "I love the way your hip curves right here" or "The muscles in your arms feel so strong."
3. Moisture is very sensual and sexy, so take a pump bottle of body lotion and drizzle it over your partner.
Of course, this is best done standing in the shower so you can watch the liquid drip down over the hills and valleys. Then, rub the lotion into your partner's skin with every part of your body except your hands. This is both sensual and playful, and can lead to a passion-fest if you let it.
4. Try some naked play in the tub or shower.
Splash each other, build shampoo foam hats on each other's heads, and engage in general silliness. If it doesn't lead to lovemaking, don't worry. You're still connecting with each other in a great way.
5. Have a food fight.

If you can't stand the mess, put some plastic on the floor first. Take off your clothes and gather some sensual foods like strawberries and melted chocolate. Dip the strawberries and feed them to each other. Draw or write on your partner's body with fingers covered in chocolate or fruit sauce, and ask your partner to guess what you drew or wrote. Then, lick the sweet stuff off your partner's skin.
If you want to throw food or spray whipped cream at each other, feel free.
6. Teasing is a great way to build that delicious feeling of lust, and it can also give way to a wonderful laugh-fest.
Take off your clothes and lie down or stand together. Walk around your partner, running your hands slowly just above his or her skin. Start with the face and neck and work your way down. Occasionally allow your breath to tickle your partner's skin as well. Do this until you're breathing heavily and can't wait to make love.

Can 'Female Viagra' Turn You Into A MAGICAL SEX UNICORN?!

Is this little pink pill the answer to your low libido woes?
A pharmaceutical breakthrough — the so-called miracle pill, Flibanserin — was approved last summer by the FDA, and has since been dubbed "Viagra for women" by the media.
That sentiment, however, is a bit misleading.
Sold under the brand name Addyi to treat hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) in women, countless articles have popped up singing its praises, mainly along the lines of: “Viagra has been available for 17 years, it’s about time people with clitorses have a similar option!”
Is Flibanserin like Viagra? Nope, not at all.
These drugs are two very different animals, and for two main reasons.
1. Medications for men's sexual performance don’t work on the brain to create a desire for sex or enhance pleasure. Women's do.

Viagra and Cialis are vasodilators intended to treat erectile dysfunction. In other words, they get blood pumping to the right places so the penis becomes erect.
Remember, just because someone has an erection, that doesn’t necessarily mean their libido is also revving full steam.
Flibanserin, on the other hand, wasn’t designed to pump blood to the genitals like pills for erectile dysfunction. This is a psychoactive drug that works in the brain to increase sexual desire.
The medical abstracts tell us, “Flibanserin works by correcting an imbalance of the levels of the neurotransmitters that affect sexual desire. More specifically, Flibanserin increases dopamine and norepinephrine, both responsible for sexual excitement, and decreases serotonin, responsible for sexual inhibition.”

In fact, Flibanserin was originally developed as an antidepressant in the same class as Wellbutrin. It was only after researchers noted some women reporting increased sexual desire they switched the focus of their research to sexual dysfunction in women.
Women who show symptoms of HSDD “are uninterested in sex regardless of mood or occasion, capped off with a heavy dose of distress and anxiety over doing the deed. Most importantly, their problem exists in the absence of any other notable culprits — psychiatric problems, for example, or drug side effects, or an inattentive partner.”
The root of the problem, so to speak, is completely different for men and women, which means the solution MUST be different as well.
2. Medication's for men's sexual performance can be taken casually. Women's cannot.

Drugs like Viagra and Cialis are also commonly called “weekend pills” — meaning you can just pop one when you want to feel "ready" and experience an immediate effect.
Flibanserin, on the other hand, needs to be taken daily for about 3 months before brain chemistry pathways are affected enough to modestly improve sexual desire in some women. After that, it needs to be taken regularly to maintain it’s effectiveness.
And what’s this about "modestly" and “some women”? ...
Basically, once you’re on it, you need to commit to it for the long haul.

That makes it all the more important to note that Flibanserin can cause quite a few side effects — including low blood pressure, dizziness and fainting, dry mouth, nausea, and serious negative interactions with alcohol — and it cannot be taken by women on hormonal birth control.
Hmm, that’s a lot of “ifs” and "possible" side effects for me ...
It turns out this little pink answer to women’s sexual dysfunction many not be an answer for the majority of women with low libido.
While HSDD is said to affect 10% of women, many of us in the field may argue that number seems a little low based on anecdotal evidence. Yet, according to the FDA, 8-13% of women who take this medication regularly will average only 0.5% more “sexual satisfying events” per month.

Ouch! That’s it?
Finally, the company behind brand name Addyi has created a marketing nightmare, setting a price of $800 for a one-month supply. That is nearly twice as much as the cost of erectile dysfunction medications, and has caused both insurance companies and pharmacies alike to balk.
That’s a lot of money, time and risk of potential side effects for something that may only help a handful of people get a tiny bit of better sex.
Is there a better answer? Yes!My recommendation is to try less invasive and more reliable solutions first before turning to a drug like Flibanserin.
Much of the work I do centers around one reoccurring theme: “How do I put the spark back in the bedroom? My partner and I don’t have sex as often as we used to and when we do it’s not as exciting. How do we fix this?”
Sexual dissatisfaction in long term relationships is very common, and often not the result of medical dysfunction.
It's normal that if we keep doing the same thing with the same person over and over for it to eventually become predictable and boring. It’s also something we can easily overcome if we have the right skills and resources.

One of the most important things we can do to reinvigorate our sex lives is to try new things and learn to communicate better with our partner(s) about our desires and fantasies.
My recommendation is to take that $800 a month and instead of spending it on a medication as a first option, spend it on things like date nights, sex toys, experimenting with BDSM gear, taking couples classes, buying books about sex, or even trying private sex coaching/therapy instead.
You just may discover that a little bit of novelty and a different approach to sex will net you better results than the latest “miracle pill.”

6 'Bad Girl' Sex Tips That Will Keep Him Satisfied FOR-EV-ER

Naughty, naughty...
Only 10 years ago, if you wanted to learn how to be a bad girl, everyone you knew would judge the heck out of you. Thankfully, this dark age attitude is finally changing. So if you want to be a bit naughty these day, you just need to follow these 6 simple rules.
You'll notice that I saved the best tips for the end, where I go into specific detail on how to please a guy with oral sex and dirty talk.
1. You have a healthy attitude about sex.

Without a doubt, the most important aspect of learning how to be a bad girl is that you have a healthy attitude about sex. Those who are truly naughty don't hate sex, don't repress their feelings about sex, and certainly don't judge others for their sexual choices and desires.
As a result of having a healthy, open attitude about sex, you will quickly find that you want explore new aspects of your sexuality, whether that's with new people, new sexual positions or techniques, or even just new scenarios and fantasies. The really cool thing about having a healthy attitude towards sex is that you'll surprise yourself with what you try and what you enjoy in bed.
2. You take precautions.
I know that sometimes you may not want to feel like you are planning sex and that it just happened. I get it. But if you truly have a healthy attitude towards sex and are open about it, then you know that it's often likely to happen when you don't exactly expect it.

This is why you should always carry condoms with you when going out with friends or to meet a guy. On top of this, if you have multiple sexual partners, then you need to get tested regularly. Even if you always use condoms.
3. You try new things.

The most important part about learning how to be dirtier is trying new things. Something I find kind of amusing is that many often interpret "trying new things" as simply sleeping with lots of different guys. It certainly can, but it doesn't have to.
Instead, you can learn to be a bad girl just for one guy by learning to try new things with only him. So, what kinds of new things should you be trying with your guy? Well if you're new to this, I always advise starting off with some new sex positions. New sex positions won't make for a crazy revolution in your sex life, but they are the perfect start and will help a ton for getting comfortable with your new sexy attitude.
4. You know how to give great oral sex.
Once you are comfortable with trying some new sexual positions with your man, it's time to take your sluttiness to a new level. It's time to learn how to give him a great blow job.

Be enthusiastic. You shouldn't meekly and quietly start giving him oral sex. He needs to see the passion and fire in your eyes as you go down and go to town on him.
Try various techniques. If you haven't given many blow jobs before, then you may not be totally comfortable with giving one to your man. If this is the case, then you may have defaulted to the traditional "in and out" motion, where you simply move your head up and down. This is absolutely fine, but there is a lot more to giving great oral sex than doing just this. You can lick, kiss, suck, blow, tease, tickle, caress and massage him using your tongue and fingers.
5. You talk dirty.
One of the trademarks of bad girl behavior is obviously talking dirty. You may have seen a few ridiculous porn movies where the starlet is screaming profanities at a guy to try and turn him on. This definitely works in some cases, but there is a whole lot more to talking dirty if you want to act sexy.

You can be much more discreet and subtle with your dirty talk, and it will still have the same effect on your man. So instead of shouting the nastiest thing you can think of at him, try whispering in his ear. Say something like, "I just want to get out of here" or, "I wish there was no one else here and we could just focus on each other, if you know what I mean."
Both of these dirty talking examples are super-easy and not as direct. On top of being easy, they are also quite a bit more powerful, as they will have your man in a constant state of anticipation until you act on what you said.
6. You dress to impress.

A big part of learning how to be a bad girl is dressing sexy. You probably already have a good idea of what you should wear to be hot for your man:

When it comes to clothes, less is more.
The more skin you show, the better.
Heels work well.
Wear makeup that gets attention.
The one thing I want to add to this is, wear something that your man (or men) associates with slutty behavior. Your guy may associate this with cheerleaders, strippers or cocktail waitresses. The list is endless and depends on your man's particular tastes.
The important thing is to exploit it. So wear a skirt that looks like a cheerleader's skirt, or clear plastic heels, or a short sexy dress if you want to look like a cheerleader, stripper or cocktail waitress.
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If you enjoyed learning how to be slutty for your man, but want to take things to the next level, you will find everything you need to know on the Bad Girl's Bible site. You'll find tips on better oral sex, every sex position known to man (with professional photographs), sex tips, and examples on talking dirty to your man.

5 Things Men DESPERATELY Need To Learn About Pleasing Women In Bed

Read it. Learn it. Live it, gentlemen.
In today's society, sex is the constant focal point, no matter where you turn. The the current topic du jour is female sexuality with articles, books, and movies debating "what women want" and how to make women putty in a man's hands.
Contrary to popular belief, women are not looking for a gladiator in the Boudoir that will supposedly give her endless hours of body rippling orgasms, with his ever hard Man Rod — this simply is not reality!
Not only does this "goal oriented" way of looking at sex create performance anxiety, for both woman and men, it also sets up a dynamic where a woman is left feeling disconnected and distant from her partner due to the lack of depth and connection.

So men, if being good in bed with women is a true goal (actually good, not just telling your friends you are) ... her are five things you MUST understand about unleashing a woman's ecstatic energy and not just "getting her off."

1. Intimacy matters

For many women, connection starts with communicating. Men are typically very visual creatures, whereas women need to develop a bond with their partner over time. This may include sharing her concerns around insecurities regarding her body image, vulnerability, commitment issues (yes, women can have commitment challenges!), even past traumas and abuse.
By letting her know that you are a strong, safe and supportive non-judgmental presence in her life, it can help her feel not only physically connected to you, but strengthen her emotional bond with you as well.
2. Don't assume, actually ask her what brings her pleasure
Many times, men find themselves using the same cookie-cutter techniques they've used since the dawn of time. Newsflash! All women are not the same! I can't emphasize this enough. (Also, porn is lying to you about what pleases women.) Look, there's a good chance that what worked on Sally 15 years ago is now bombing terribly with your present partner. So keeping this in mind, ask your partner what lights her up, what she's not open to and what she would be willing try.
Be a supportive and safe container for her to really open up to you about any fantasies that she shares. The more a woman feels comfortable and safe with her man, the less inhibited she is expressing herself. Perhaps, even suggest "sex dates" where the two of you explore each others "Hot Buttons," with a primary focus on exploration, and not so much on intercourse or orgasm.

This takes performance anxiety out of the picture. Paying close attention to what a woman shares with you about her pleasure makes her feel desirable and comfortable in her skin, sexually and emotionally.
3. Her sexual response takes awhile to warm up (and that's a GOOD thing)
The average intercourse session between a man and woman lasts anywhere between 7-16 minutes. And it can take a woman up to 40 minutes to experience an orgasm. Is it any wonder why so many women express frustration and disappointment for not feeling "orgasmically" seen?
The sexual response cycle (proposed by Masters & Johnson) consists of four phases: Excitement, Plateau, Orgasmic, and Resolution.
Most people do not realize that men and women go through this cycle differently. And sadly, the art of foreplay has fallen by the wayside — especially with most films depicting the "30 second fondle" before getting to bumping and grinding.

Many women need build-up from foreplay and that doesn't just begin in the bedroom, but outside, too. Sending a sexy (but not crass) text or email, a lingering heart felt hug, deep kissing or sensual touching are great ways to get things stirring for her. She may also feel open to viewing adult films, playing with toys or experimenting with saucy role playing.
Again, ask her what she finds pleasurable and titillating. Delicious, slow building foreplay creates anticipation, excites her senses and immerses her fully in her body. Thus, giving her permission to show off the best version of her sexual self.
4. YOU understanding how female orgasm actually works is vital
Our culture places so much emphasis on vaginal orgasms in its representations of sex. As a result, many men do not realize there are other ways to stimulate women. Read any romance novel or watch a steamy sex scene and the "go to" technique we're often fed is that vaginal thrusting enough times bring a woman to orgasmic bliss. THIS is rarely the case.
Studies reveal that approximately 80 percent of women do NOT experience vaginal orgasms and require other forms of stimulation to her genitals, in order to experience orgasm; numbers like this paint a picture of just how many women aren't feeling sexually satisfied.

Here are the three types of orgasms that women can experience are:
Clitoral: The clitoris is by far the most sensitive part of a woman's body, with a whopping 8,000 nerve endings, its soul purpose is to bring pleasure, requiring direct or indirect clitoral stimulation with fingers, toys, mouth or penis to experience orgasm.
Vaginal: Only a small percentage of women actually have an orgasm from penetration only and usually there's some form of clitoral or G-spot stimulation during penetration.
G-Spot: This is more of an area than a spot — located an inch or two just inside the front vaginal wall and feels a bit rougher than the rest of the vagina. A gentle stroking of the area may produce an intense feeling of needing to urinate, so this exploration is best done after the woman has emptied her bladder and is in a state of arousal. Sometimes if you stimulate the G-Spot, she may experience female ejaculation, but not always. Just know that this is not Urine. There are numerous educational videos on the G-Spot. (Here are some of my favorites.)
5. She needs sleep
This is an area that is over looked time and time again. Modern day women are held to a standard of being superstars in the boardroom and porn stars in the bedroom. Is it any wonder that sleep suffers? The last thing on a woman's mind after being on the clock for 12+ hours is coming home to serve as a sex kitten. She is most likely justifiably tired, wired, overwhelmed and could really use some support.
Again, this is where communication comes into play. Asking a woman how you can support her is music not only to her ears, but to her heart and body. Knowing that you're there to help ease the pressures of everyday life, she can naturally start to relax and come down off the ceiling. Simple things like helping her do the dishes, preparing meals, or even a 15-minute foot massage on the couch helps her get back into her body; this is a must before any kind of arousal can take place for her.
When her oxytocin tanks are full and she feels well-rested, cared for, and supported by her man, this is when she is able to surrender herself fully to sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

At the end of the day, taking time and being fully present with your significant other — seeing her as the beautiful, mystical goddess that she is — holding the space for her to express herself in a way that brings her joy, ecstasy and her greatest self, is the most sacred gift you can give her.
Dr. Gillian Joseph is a Clinical Sexologist and Certified Sex Coach at The Wholistic Centre for Sexual Wellness. Contact her today for your complimentary exploratory session.

The 8 Best Sex Positions To Stimulate Her G-Spot Like WHOA

She'll be screaming for more.
Sex is supposed to be pleasurable for both of you, but a lot of women have some trouble getting there. And believe it or not, a big part of that may just be the failure to hit the right spots.
For example, is there a position that can hit your G-spot and rub your clit at the same time? That's a winner.
"My favorite position is doggie. For one, I can reach my clit really easily and rub it out while he's f*cking me. Second, there is something about doggie and the way the man's penis is able to slide in, touching my feelings on pain and pleasure simultaneously," says Brooke, an adult film actress.

If you don't know where your G-Spot is, then your guy probably has no shot of finding it either. An important part of achieving your orgasm is knowing your own body and what it's capable of doing. As a woman, don't be afraid of exploring your vagina and understanding every single part of it.
This bean-shaped spot of spongy tissue is located about two inches back from the vaginal opening and is responsible for those mega orgasms we read about but maybe haven't experienced ourselves. If he hits that spot, you will explode... in the best way possible. Maybe even repeatedly.

Take some time when you're by yourself to find it, and then guide your guy to find it next time you come together as well. But in a world where too many of us are dating men who can't even find (or care to find!) our G-spot, is this a lost cause? No!
There are some sex positions designed to specifically find and stimulate it. Consider it a "connect the dots" of pleasure. Here are eight sex positions to add to your bedroom repertoire ASAP.

Ladies, 'Orgasm Injections' Are Your Vagina's New BFF (Hallelujah!)

Get ready to say "Oh, yes!"
Yes, you read that right ... an ORGASM INJECTION. This is a thing that exists.

The product is called PRP (platelet rich plasma). It's a blood plasma enriched with platelets derived from your own blood that's used to heal and grow soft tissue in places where it is injected. And, it supposedly stimulates vaginal pleasure for women who suffer from vaginal dysfunction and lack of pleasure. Or, simply, for women who want more stimulation and sexual enjoyment.
When injected, it stimulates healing and grows tissue that is sensitive and responsible for pleasurable stimulation. PRP does not have many side effects and an estimated 150,000 women have already tried the shot.

This process came to use in the 1990s in facial plastic surgeries to support better growth of facial tissue. (Facial tissue is incredibly sensitive, just like the vagina!) Clinical trials for vaginal use of PCP began in 2011 by Dr. Samuel Wood, a reproductive endocrinologist in San Diego, CA. But, it was Charles Reunels who founded the specific O-Shot for the vagina.
The O-Shot can be helpful to many women, but it is important to acknowledge that this procedure (like Viagra for men) can also set very unreasonable, high expectations from both you and your partner. The vagina is not a robot!

Why are women choosing the O-Shot as an option?
According to Dr. Lauren Streitcher, 25 percent of women have an orgasm dysfunction. But, the truth is — it doesn’t need to be considered a dysfunction. Many women experience orgasms differently, including the level of strength, feeling and stimulation, both internally and through the clitoris.
More importantly, its's important to know that only 25 percent of women can consistently experience vaginal orgasms on a consistent basis and some women even prefer to experience sex or foreplay without orgasm due to the feeling or intensity.

Psychology Today reports, "About half of women sometimes have orgasms during intercourse. About 20 percent seldom or ever have orgasms during intercourse. And about 5 percent never have orgasms, period."

So, for women looking for help increasing and improving their sexual response, the O-shot is an option.
It costs about $1,200 to $1,500 per visit and each injection lasts around 18 months. Though apparently it's safe to repeat injections once they wear off, because PRP treatments are still new, there is not enough validated research to confirm this.
How do doctors make the PRP? 

Step 1: Doctors draw your blood and spin it in a high-moving machine, creating a layer of platelet-rich plasma from your blood.

Step 2: The physician or nurse conducts vaginal mapping by exploring your vagina to find the most pleasurable and sensitive parts of your vagina that will benefit most from the injection.
Step 3: The injection site is given a bit of numbing cream to ease the sting of the injection (which patients say is not very painful). In some cases, some of the PRP is injected into the clitoris as well.
Step 4: Doctors inject the PRP into the vagina's sensitive spot to stimulate new tissue growth. As it grows, your orgasms become more intense, and vaginal ejaculation can become possible, too, due to increased sensitivity.
The shot may make you more sensitive, but part of the joy of sex (including foreplay) is the journey of learning about your body. Pleasure can take time and healthy communication, compromise, and exploration are still required for an optimally enjoyable sexual experience. Practice and explore with your partner (or solo).

There are many types of vaginal dysfunction that make achieving orgasms difficult.
If you’re experiencing loss of vaginal stimulation, pain, or sexual discomfort, visit a medical professional for a comprehensive medical examine before jumping to a procedure like this.
If your medical professional suggests that this might be a promising procedure for you, find a PRP Provider near you here.