Good to be bad. Life never really goes the way we plan, does it? Even after something as life-changing as a divorce, we still seem to want to shake things up. We still want to keep things interesting — all for the sake of a good time.
Familiarity. When you're hitting a rough patch (divorce is clearly a rough patch), you want change to slow itself down. You don't want to fall into emotional shock. When you think about it, what can be more familiar than an ex husband or wife?
The comfort zone. Whether you like this person or not, your ex knows all of your dirty little secrets. They know what you love, what you hate. They know how to keep you feeling pleasured and they know exactly what'll turn you off during some hot sex. For that, they still have that perk.
Breaking it off. Divorce is intense. Even if you've only been married for a short amount of time, you're breaking off a relationship that you've put a significant amount of work into. Having divorce sex can help you wean yourself off, in a way. In the same way you don't just slam on the brakes in a car when you're speeding, you shouldn't do the same thing with divorce.
You're sad. Even if this divorce was a mutual decision, there's a good chance life isn't all peaches and cream. A chapter in your life ended. You both might be a bit sad — and what cures sadness better than sex?
You're adults. If you think you both can handle having sex without complicating your divorce, then by all means go for it. If there are repercussions, you'll have to deal with them like mature adults. Think you can handle that?
Then again, there are negatives. You're divorced! The two of you made a presumably mature decision and decided to break apart from each other. You both needed this. To extend that level of maturity, removing the sex is super necessary.
It's confusing. After your divorce is a good time for the both of you to look inwards. Focus on yourselves. Instead of living in the past, live in the now. Think about the future. Don't get lost in something just because it's recognizable.
Moving on. Even though this kind of sex might be easy, don't use that as an excuse. Sure, you haven't been in the dating world in a while, but that shouldn't be an excuse to not try. Be open to meeting new people and don't hold yourself back.
Divorce shouldn't be taken lightly. You didn't just break up with your high school sweetheart. You divorced. You legally separated from each other and had your vows to each other undone. Treat it with some level of importance.
Return to form. Fun as it might seem shacking up with your ex, the same can't really be said in the long run. Sure, maybe you're one of the rare incidences of divorcees getting back together, but don't test your luck. You divorced for a reason. Maybe leave it alone.
It's kind of depressing. You guys cut each other off. You made it legally official. So why are you doing this to yourself? Instead of embracing a new future, you're settling on something that only feels safe. It's only going to hurt you in the end.
That was easy. The older you get, the less inclined you'll be to push yourself. It's only natural. The same applies to dating and having sex. If you're not settled down with someone, it might just seem like a chore. So hooking up with your ex husband or wife can be pleasurable just because it's so much more convenient.
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