Embrace yourself. Get in touch with your inner-self, and establish your true identify. Love you for you, and let yourself know that you are absolutely perfect just the way you are. Pro tip: The more you say it, the more you’ll believe it.
Be positive. Simply changing the way you think and talk about what’s going on can have a powerful impact on your self-esteem. Avoid negative language, and accentuate the positive. Transform from the inside out.
Try something new. Overcome the fear of “putting yourself out there.” Embracing vulnerability can be scary, but also downright exciting, so try a pole dancing fitness class or some hip hop dancing lessons. Whatever you do, fully put yourself out there so that you can grow as a person — and feel like your sexy, confident self once again.
Buy things for yourself. News flash: Retail therapy works. Purchasing something nice for yourself — whether it be a a flirty dress or snazzy shoes — can boost your confidence in ways you didn’t even know. Not to mention, these “comfort buys” can actually be therapeutic — as long as they’re done in moderation, of course.
Play dress-up. Ever wonder why everyone loves Halloween? It’s because trying on a different persona can be pretty liberating. Even if it’s temporary, it’s nice to take a break from your life and step out of character. So, switch things up to feel sexier than ever.
Invest in a work/wife husband. No, we’re not saying you should cheat. However, you should tease. Flirting is harmless and can make you feel wanted. So, turn those boring water cooler talks into playful water cooler chats. *Wink*
Masturbate. Simply put, self-pleasure can fill the sexual void. Exploring the nooks and crannies of your body can help you learn what you like — and what you don’t like. Not to mention, masturbating makes you happier because, well, pleasure makes people feel good. Duh.
Orgasm. Don’t just masturbate to masturbate — masturbate to climax. Orgasms release the endorphins dopamine and oxytocin, which can improve your mood and produce a natural high. Also, self-stimulation is an easy, effective way to unwind both emotionally and physically. Perfect!
Date yourself. Not literally, but you know what we mean. Being on your own gives you a chance to truly find yourself — plus, independence is just plain sexy. Take yourself out for a little adventure and revel in the fact that world is full of possibilities. You never know what might happen!
Prioritize yourself. Always put your best self forward. If you’re dressing and acting as frumpy as your sex life is it won’t make matters any better. Take a page from “Parks and Recreation” and treat yo’ self. A little dose of lavish luxury never hurt anyone!
Exercise. It’s not a secret that working out can make you feel better about yourself. Breaking a sweat can benefit your skin, your self-confidence, your overall mood and your energy levels. So if you want to feel as sexy as you look (werk!), incorporate some exercise into your weekly routine.
Lingerie it up. That’s right: Take a much-needed trip to a lingerie shop. Once there, choose a few sexy, slinky things to try on. Find something that feels sensual when you wear it. Keep in mind that you are pleasing only yourself — if you later decide to share your ensemble with someone, that’s fine. But right now, it’s not for anyone’s eyes but yours.
Communicate. Relationships are all about communication. Without being able to express themselves and truly listen to another person, partners cannot achieve intimacy — verbal or otherwise. So it’s important to not just talk, but share. By developing your communication skills, you and your spouse will be able to re-establish and preserve a loving, respectful relationship.
Ask questions. While communicating with your partner, ask questions. But not just any: Ask your partner about the things they find attractive in you, and then let them know what you like about them. Be honest and thoughtful.
Consider other options. Namely, an open relationship. Ask your partner if they would be willing to discuss the possibility of opening your marriage. Be sure to let them know that you value your marriage and their feelings above all. And remember: This conversation should remain respectful.
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