User “diddlesdiddles.” "My ex husband watched a hell of a lot of porn, and I was absolutely fine with it. However, the problem we faced is that he started to believe porn was true to life, and started expecting me to do all the things these women were doing (taking anal without preparation, choking for aaaages on his d*ck) and that's where our first problems hit. Things progressed when he only wanted me to look like a porn star, big round ass, fake tits, fake nails and hair and I couldn't (7 weeks postpartum!) and his eyes and dick went elsewhere. That was a year and a half ago, and it's not damaged my view of porn, but if your SO starts to get obsessed, get them to seek help!"
User “SirEDCaLot.” "No problem with it, as long as it doesn't detract from our own bedroom activities.
It's natural for anyone to be attracted to more than one person. Being together with someone doesn't mean you instantly lose any attraction to anyone else. To expect such a thing would be absurd.
And a person's fantasies are their own, inside their head. Just like their opinions, nobody else (including their SO) has any right to dictate what those thoughts should or should not be.
Besides, masturbation is generally considered a healthy habit for both male and female humans.So as I see it, I don't have any right to demand they stop masturbating or demand they think of me when doing so. And the same goes in reverse also.
Now if they seem to be working on themselves more and that leaves them disinterested in our own bedroom activities, that's a problem. However the problem in that case probably isn't masturbation, but rather disinterest in said activities, which is worth a conversation."
It's natural for anyone to be attracted to more than one person. Being together with someone doesn't mean you instantly lose any attraction to anyone else. To expect such a thing would be absurd.
And a person's fantasies are their own, inside their head. Just like their opinions, nobody else (including their SO) has any right to dictate what those thoughts should or should not be.
Besides, masturbation is generally considered a healthy habit for both male and female humans.So as I see it, I don't have any right to demand they stop masturbating or demand they think of me when doing so. And the same goes in reverse also.
Now if they seem to be working on themselves more and that leaves them disinterested in our own bedroom activities, that's a problem. However the problem in that case probably isn't masturbation, but rather disinterest in said activities, which is worth a conversation."
User “ArtOfFailure.” "I have no issue with it.
The important thing to bear in mind with porn is that they aren't masturbating 'to someone else'. They don't have an association with that person. They're masturbating, and porn is simply a tool which aids that process by playing out fantasies and scenarios, it isn't personal. Porn isn't created to replace real human intimacy - it's created to excite and arouse, and those two things are not the same."
The important thing to bear in mind with porn is that they aren't masturbating 'to someone else'. They don't have an association with that person. They're masturbating, and porn is simply a tool which aids that process by playing out fantasies and scenarios, it isn't personal. Porn isn't created to replace real human intimacy - it's created to excite and arouse, and those two things are not the same."
User “ScallyWag-Idiot.” "My wife likes to watch bukakke, group, and BBC porn. Can't say I don't have a slight insecurity about it."
User “K_Murphy.” "I wouldn't mind as long as my husband didn't start expecting me to look like a porn star, and it didn't affect his attraction to me/our sex life."
User “Herdnerfer.” "As long as our sex life is healthy, she is welcome to go for it."
User “Druundev.” "As long as they aren't sexting/sending nudes/having call sex i'm fine with it. As long as they aren't ‘interacting' with a person directly."
User “TwistTurtle.” "I'd be disturbed if they didn't. I really don't want to spend the rest of my life being entirely responsible for my partners sexual satisfaction. That is just too much f*cking work."
User “frenchbritchchick.” "Woman speaking: don't give a crap. Masturbation is 'me-time', whether he does it to porn or pictures or fantasies, I don't care, whatever gets his rocks off :)"
User “Sauerpatchkid.” "Because sometimes I really AM tired or actually have a headache. If he needs to play with his dangle down to some bouncing boobs, that's fine."
Anonymous. "I usually try to help, which often turns into sex. If I'm not around or she just wants to do her own thing, so be it. We have more than enough sex so I'm not jealous if she is sick of looking at my d*ck."
User “Facesintrees.” "I'm not crazy about it. I think porn has a really negative effect on relationships in general and the way people view sex and women in particular. Obviously this is not a popular opinion on Reddit, but my s/o and I have mutually agreed not to. Edit; obviously it works for some people's relationships and all the power to you, for me personally however it never has."
User “WhyDIdntYouDoMyJob.” "I would feel extremely insecure to be honest. It would feel as if I was not wanted- or at the very least left more to be desired. If I felt like my partner would rather watch someone else- it would make me think that I was subpar and feel like sh*t."
User “Nof8_97.” "I feel nothing. It's not something I really think about or ever talk about much with my SO, I kinda just assume they watch it. Could not care less. The only time I would take issue is if it was interfering with/replacing a healthy sex life with me."
User “Peppermint-pie.” "For me, it's very out of sight, out of mind. I have no idea what his habits are and I don't want to know. As long as our sex life is good and he's not spending money on porn, I'm happy. But after reading these responses, I have to be honest: I don't like the whole 'men are visual and we all look at porn, if you don't like it, tough tits' attitude. If you're in a relationship with someone who isn't comfortable with porn, I feel like you should either try to follow her wishes or move on to someone else whose view is more compatible. Going behind your partner's back to look at porn when you know she doesn't like it is pretty sleazy and trying to justify it is even more so. We aren't animals - just because we have an impulse to do something doesn't mean we have to act on it. Have some respect for your partners."
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