Husband’s Fetish and Threesome Obsession Is Ruining His Marriage: One Woman’s Plea for Advice

One woman recently wrote in to an advice columnist asking for advice on saving her marriage from her fetish and threesome addicted husband. Her story explains what it's like to live with someone who has sex addictions and the subsequent infidelities.

Fetish Woes. In a wife's desperate plea for advice to help save her marriage, one woman opens up about her husband's obsession with fetishes and threesomes. The advice columnist from The Sun covered the case.

High Sex Drive. According to the article, the woman's husband as always had an unusually high sex drive. She reports she's never had an issue with that aspect of their physical relationship in the 20 years they've been married.

Threesome Obsession. According to her letter for advice, the woman says it's the threesome obsession and later fetishes that have begun to wreak havoc on their marriage. After years of watching his behaviors and his pleading for the experience, she says she finally gave in and agreed to have a threesome.

The First Time. "I discovered he was talking to a woman about sex on an adult sex site and had indicated he was single. I was devastated but eventually accepted there was no harm in it and he changed his profile to a couple. After a lot of persuading, I agreed to have a threesome with this woman he was chatting to," the letter states.

It Didn't End There. Hoping her husband's appetite would be satisfied after she finally caved in to his desires, the woman went through with having sex with another woman and watching her husband have sex with her as well. Her hopes dwindled when she realized it wouldn't be the last.

Insatiable Thirst. Instead of quenching his thirst, the threesome only managed to make it more insatiable. The woman writes of how she was only agreeing to the additional occurrences because she wanted to keep her husband sexually satisfied despite the fact that it wasn't satisfying to her.

They Talked. She tells the advice columnist that she and her husband would discuss how much it bothered her. He agreed to stop, would apologize - until the next "opportunity" came along and he would move on it again.

They Moved. According to her letter, the couple even changed residences - packed up and moved - giving her hope it would end by moving away from the women in the old area who were willing to participate in the threesomes. Unfortunately, he only managed to find more in their new area.

Swingers Club. Their new neighborhood brought them to a swingers club. The owner of the club invited them to various parties and willing couples. "The guy was pushing my husband to have sex with his wife. My husband was more than happy, then arranged for us to have a threesome with the wife. I always made it clear I didn’t want him sexting other women but have caught him out many times. He is always sorry after," she wrote.

Caught Sexting. After a while, her husband began hiding his activities as it became understood his wife didn't want to participate. She wrote he began to hide his phone, change his passwords, and text in secret.

Growing Obsession. Instead of curbing the desire to have a sexual adventure with his wife, the initial threesome his wife agreed to only managed to ignite the flame of desire for more. Her husband had become addicted to sexual activities with other women and couples and it was getting out of hand.

Fetishes and BDSM. The activities had progressed from threesomes and swinging to now adding additional BDSM activities and other fetishes. Other swinger couples were inviting him to participate in masochistic activities with other wives.

He Agreed. She explains in her letter that her husband began agreeing to more and more dark encounters with strangers. He was doing all of this behind her back and then apologizing as she eventually uncovered the truth.

Anxious and Angry. The woman stated, "I feel anxious and angry. I feel I am going mad at times, yet when I confront him, he promises never to do it again. I am at loss as to what to do." What seems to be a no-brainer to outsiders, brings about internal turmoil to a woman in love for 20 years with a man who will never be satisfied with a monogamous sex life with his wife.

The Advice. "Many men do separate sex and love but if he loves you, he needs to show it through his behaviour and his consideration for your feelings. If anything is to change, I’m afraid you must make some tough choices," the columnist writes. "You must make some tough choices" - no s***?