How to Have a Conversation That Leads to Something More–Do You Know These Original & Little-Known Tricks?
Last week, I showed you a few easy ways to keep a conversation going on a date--but what if you want to do more than just keep the conversation going?
What if you want to have a great interaction with a woman, that is not only fun & engaging… but increases her attraction to you as well?
I promise you, it’s possible to turn a woman on in public–if you say the right things to her.
So today, I’m going to show you 5 incredible ways to have conversations with women that naturally escalate into something more. 
Beginning with tip #1:
1) Plow The Field
The first tip is to “plow the field,” rather than dig yourself into a conversational hole.
This is a problem guys run into when they find a topic that the girl seems interested in… but then they stick on it for too long.
What happens is that a guy finds a topic this girl likes, and then hammers it home until he’s reached a conversational dead end, and she’s bored of him.
You don’t want this.
So instead of staying on a subject you know she’s interested in, the better thing you can do is to transition into a related–but different–topic.
Why?
Because you’re trying to find as many topics that interest her as you can. And the only real way you can do this is to change the subject.
Of course, you’ll want to remember those topics she likes, because they’ll come in handy when you’re ready for my next tip…
2) Remember the Topics That Light Her Up
So when you find those topics that “light her up”… remember them.
The fundamental concept behind this is that a great conversation is not about what you say. It’s about how you make her feel.
And if you keep coming back to that handful of things that light her up, then you’re making her feel good.
Ultimately, this will make her associate that “feel good” feeling with being around you. And that will only make her want to be around you more.
So how do you know when you’ve found a topic that “lights her up”?
Look for non-verbal cues. If, for example, I’m talking about chocolate labs and I see her open her mouth and smile–she’s told me that this topic interests her in a very big way.
She might respond, “You have a chocolate lab? So do I! OMG, he’s the best thing in my life!”
Now, instead of digging a hole, you plow the field:
“Wow!” You respond, “You must have a big apartment!”
She might even try to go back to the subject of chocolate labs, but now you have a card in your pocket (chocolate labs), and you have to look for more.
As you search, you are looking for the topics that not only light her up, but also turn her on…
Make her laugh uncontrollably…
Inspire her…
And overwhelm her with emotions.
That’s the key–you want to make her feel things.
Which brings me to my next key piece of advice:
3) Display a Variety of Emotional Responses
On top of trying to make her feel good during this conversation, you also want to show her that you can feel things as well.
While holding your emotions inside is very traditionally masculine and can be attractive to women…
Expressing a variety of emotions is usually downright irresistible to the feminine personality.
Additionally, much later, when you decide to hold back your responses and emotional information she may probe you for, the fact that you’ve already shown her a variety of emotions shows that you are capable of emoting and are in control.
As a result, she is driven to release your control and break through your “burly shell.”
So as you talk, you also want to look for ways to share many emotions:
Joy…
Empathy…
Passion…
And so on.
By expressing emotions, you increase your intrigue and project your depth. You show her that you can move her and that–if she is on top of her game–she may be able to move you too.
4) Use Pacing (If You Run Out of Things To Say)
Now let’s talk about trouble shooting–what if things go badly and you don’t know what to do?
If that happens, you can try a little technique I like to call “pacing.”
Pacing gives you something present and positive to say when the words just don’t seem to be forming in your head.
And in fact, it’s really quite simple.
Just describe what’s actually happening, and that’ll give you a “yes” ladder that takes control of the scene.
And when it’s followed by bringing your own goals into the conversation, you’re leading somewhere that she wants to go.
For example:
“You’re sitting there, looking at me, and we have this tray of fries in front of us. Somehow, it already feels like we’re getting along well!”
It works to get her in a good mood, and it shows her that you can take control of the situation.
And once you’re in a good place with her? It’s time to do this:
5) The Shy Guy’s “Secret” to Getting Sexual During A Conversation
This is a simple touching technique that I show my shy or “introverted” students… because it often seems to escalate a conversation faster than any words can.
You can use it at just about any time in a conversation… though it’s best if you’ve been talking for at least a minute or so…
Here’s what to do:
Pick out something she’s wearing, like a bracelet… a ring… or even a hair clip (accessories are usually good)… and simply reach over, and touch her like this for 3 seconds.
Obviously, it doesn’t need to be exactly 3 seconds… it should feel natural. But the trick is to make sure you do this while you’re touching her.
Why?
Well, this technique apparently makes her feel a stronger emotional bond with you… and that can get her to open up to you sexually as well.
(A lot faster than, say, taking her out to an expensive dinner… or listening to her go on about her family history for 3 hours.)
It’s also a lot more subtle than just grabbing her hand… or wrapping your arm around the small of her back… so most of the time, she’ll just keep on talking like nothing is even happening…
Though a few minutes later, you may notice her blushing & twirling her hair… leaning into you a lot more… and she’ll likely suggest you go somewhere more “private” for a “drink.”
(That’s how it goes for 85% of my students, anyway.)
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