How to Be a Sex Goddess and Get What You Want

I am not saying that men are easy to manipulate. This is just about us girls understanding a few, very basic rules about human beings, and using these facts to our own advantage.

Everyone wins in the end, no harm done. Be warned though that some of these truths aren't necessarily desirable, that is beside the point.

If you want to understand how a man's mind works, and you don't want to spend your days and nights battling against it, then be quiet, listen carefully, and start getting what you want.

Tip #1: Inflate his ego

There are so many ways I can put this…

If you rub a magic lamp, a genie pops out and you get your three wishes. If you rub a man's penis it gets hard and you can have sex.

When you rub a guy's ego the right way, he feels great about himself and suddenly you're on the same side, which means he's more likely to agree with you, or want to do something that makes you feel just as great as he does!

How to do it?

Well this is going to sound ever so sexist, and I almost hate myself for saying it, but the more of a trophy you are to him, the more you are likely to get away with murder.

If you look good and you take a pride in yourself, then he feels great when he's with you. He feels proud of you and himself for landing such a great catch, he feels smug that all the other men are envious of him, basically, he feels like the man!

When he feels like the man, he acts like the man – take your opportunity to take advantage of his manliness!

Tip #2: Make him your Number One priority in the bedroom

Sex is so much better when you're one hundred percent hungry for it because your desire feeds his desire and vice versa.

When a guy discovers he's got a sex-hungry girl who is assertive about her desire for him and confident about her sexuality, he'll basically think he's the luckiest man on the planet. He probably won't want to do too much to compromise all the great sex and how to give a great blowjob!

Make him a happy man in the bedroom and he'll just be walking around all day with a smile on his face. A happy man is an easy-going man.

The great thing about all of this is that not only do you get an easy-going boyfriend who is willing to do anything to make you happy because you're the best sex he's ever had, but you also get to have loads of fun in the bedroom with him!

Enjoy…

Tip #3: Be emotionally independent

Emotional neediness is a turn-off. Men may not mind the idea of being ‘man of the house', or the ‘bread-winner', but when you put an emotional responsibility on them they crumble.

Why? Who knows. Maybe the pressure of expectation is too much?

Maybe they don't like the burden of feeling responsible for your happiness, and quite rightly so.

When you take responsibility for your own happiness, however, you suddenly become desirable. Every Sex Goddess knows that she can only keep her status for as long as she doesn't depend on her lover for emotional security, or anything to be honest.

When you are self-sufficient and you don't need a man, you will probably find yourself surrounded by men.

Take care of your own needs and you can guarantee that your man will be right there, waiting to be of service.

Men want to be of service, they want to be useful and they want to provide whatever you need, they just don't want to feel too responsible, because it kills the desire.

Tip #4: Ooze inner confidence

There is nothing wrong of being sure of yourself. A woman who is firmly in touch with who she is and what she wants is a strong, healthy and stable woman – and a fine catch indeed!

She is also exciting because she stirs a man's innate sense of challenge.

When you are confident, you choose your mates, you don't let them choose you. This means that you are not a sure catch, and the chase in on!

Once a man has chased you down and conquered, he will feel all the more satisfied with his kill because he can compare himself to all the other men who tried and failed or didn't have the guts to try and fail.

Inner confidence also tells a man that you are open to new experiences, and that you may even have a few surprises up your own sleeves for him to look forward to.

It's like he has found an exciting new playmate and the games can begin.

Once you have got him engaged and the game is in full throttle, he will be having so much fun being taken along on the ride, that he won't even notice that you have hold of the reins.

Steer in whichever direction you wish…

Tip #5: Keep it fresh

Great sex is about spontaneity, creativity, and imagination. If you want to be a Sex Goddess and get what you want from your relationship, then you have to keep it fresh.

Tune in to how you are feeling and make sure that you feed off your own genuine desires. Listen to your body and your mind.

What is it saying? Do you feel vulnerable today? Maybe it's time for some sexy role play? Have you had a bad day at work?

Turn that tension into something else in the bedroom and work off your aggression sexually. Perhaps you watched a film that inspired a sexy idea in your head and you want to re-create it.

Or perhaps you are bored of your surroundings and fancy a change of scene – say a dirty weekend away?

If you listen to your own needs you can keep your sex life fresh and relevant to you, which means your sexuality will always be coming from a genuine and exciting place.

The more personal to you you make your experiences, the more you will attract your man to connect with you on a deeper level too.

How to Have Sex In High Heels

Why Are High Heels So Sexy?

All women know that as soon as you put on a pair of high heels a whole outfit can suddenly be transformed. High heels don’t only transform outfits; they can also transform personalities and add sex appeal by giving a woman height, authority and self-confidence. When you wear high heels you feel like your legs are longer and shapelier, so you look better in skirts and tight jeans. High heels also make your hips swing as you walk, which means you get more attention when you walk past a guy because his eyes are drawn to your bum!

How Does All Of This Translate To The Bedroom Though?

You might feel a bit silly wearing high heels in the bedroom – especially when you have taken all of your clothes off! I mean, shoes normally come off first, don’t they? Not if you want to tap into the erotic element of fantasy that is going to turn you and your boyfriend on during sex. If you dare to wear your high heels to bed, your man is instantly going to know that the sex tonight is going to be hot! The mere act of you leaving your high heels on is suggestive of dominance, which is one main fantasy-inspired turn-on that men link high-heeled shoes to. Even if you are not much of a dominatrix, leaving your high heels on during sex will make the sex seem naughty and spontaneous. Leave some of your clothes on too and you will feel like you are being ravished!

But How Does It Work? How Do You Actually Have Sex In High Heels?

Well, it’s certainly not rocket science ladies! You have sex in exactly the same fashion as you would normally have sex only you will, of course, be wearing your high heel shoes.  You might want to think about a few things though in order to maximize the visual and physical experience for both you and your partner.

How Tall Is Your Partner?

If your guy is fairly short then wearing absurdly high heels may cause a bit of a problem – if you’re having sex standing up. This is remedied by positioning yourself on a surface, such as a desk, so that there are no coital alignment issues! If your guy is tall then go for it and have him take you from behind while you are leaning over the desk with your legs straight and wide apart.

How Comfortable Are Your Shoes?

There is no point in wearing high heels if they are causing you so much pain that you can’t focus on receiving (or giving) any pleasure! Choose shoes that actually fit, and if you’re not used to standing or walking in heels, then avoid toppling over and twisting your ankle mid-thrust by lying down on your back or straddling your man with your knees firmly planted on a soft surface.

Can Your Man Actually See The Shoes?

If not, then you may as well be wearing wellington boots for all he cares! Positions yourself so that he can enjoy the visual treat while you are having sex.

Safety First…

Make sure that your heels are not likely to stub your poor guy’s feet because that would be the end of everything – for both of you. As far as I can recall, men’s penises don’t stand up to any sort of non-sex-related pain. Probably best to make sure those sharp heels are nowhere near his manly areas either!

What Are The Best Sex Positions For Having Sex In High Heels?

After some careful thinking, I’ve come up with this list of sex positions to get you started on thinking up some good ways to integrate your high heel shoe collection into your sex routine.

Legs In The Air

This is precisely as it sounds. Lie on your back – on a bed, desk, floor or other surface – wearing your high heels of course, and let your guy enter you whilst lifting your legs in the air so that he has a perfect view of your long legs in those sexy heels (and pulling them apart, if he wants to get off on seeing himself slide in and out of you when he looks down!). TIP: Make sure you wax or close-shave your legs, and your bikini line, because stubble may cause problems with his erection if he doesn’t like that sort of thing!

Woman On Top And, er, Backwards

Yes, you read all of that correctly. First, you straddle your man and control your own pleasure by being on top. Second, you do it all facing away from him so that he can see your sexy back, sexy bum, sexy legs and sexy shoes! He may even get the urge to hold onto your heels…

Standing, Pressed Up Against A Wall

The appeal here is in the sense of animal passion and spontaneity, so make sure you are fully dressed in your sexiest office girl outfit and highest heels, and make sure he gets a good view of those heels by bringing your leg up to wrap around his side.

TIP: If he holds your thigh, it makes this position a lot easier!

What Other Women Say About Having Sex In High Heels

Apparently women love to have sex in heels; here’s what they are saying…

Pamela: “When I wear my high heel shoes to bed, I feel powerful, which makes the sex so much better!”

Rachel: “My boyfriend loves seeing me leave the house in the morning with the high heel shoes I wore during sex the night before!”

Kerry: “When I wear heels during sex I feel like I have an alter-personality, and I can be even more daring than I usually am with my boyfriend.”

7 Hot and Trendy Swimsuit Styles for This Season

Summer is quickly approaching but before you head to the shops in search of bathing suits, you need to check out this list of 2014 summer swimsuit styles. You'll be shocked to learn that one-pieces are incredibly hot this year along with retro-inspired suits, crazy patterns, and so much more!

#1 Retro (High-Waisted Bottoms)

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At this point, we all know how incredibly popular the high-waisted shorts and pants are. They're totally cute and adorable with a retro feel we adore. But what about when it comes to swimsuits? Well, we're pleased to announce that high-waisted swimsuit bottoms are totally hot this year. And if you're really in the mood to amp up your pinup look, try adding some retro curls to your hair and sporting a suit with a feminine floral pattern or you can rock it in the modern and trendy way like this one shown here.

#2 Sheer

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Want to tantalize at the beach without showing too much skin? Then this is the swimsuit style for you. Sheer is unbelievably sexy and is most commonly seen in one-piece bathing suits (who said one-pieces aren't totally hot?). This particular suit is not only sporting the popular sheer style, but is also showcasing another one of this year's biggest trends, which leads us to swimsuit style number 3: Cutout suits.

#3 Cutout

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Immaculate detailing, a stunning finish, and a one-piece swimsuit with enough edge and chicness to top them all. We're talking about the cutout swimsuit. This amazing work of art takes the basic one-piece swimsuit to an entirely new level that's graceful yet modern, and the best part is that there are literally tons of cutout styles to choose from so finding the perfect suit is easy (Not to mention you'll probably never run into someone wearing the same suit as you). So tell me this: Why go for the average, basic swimsuit when you can wear something that is full of exotic details and patterns? Try the cutout!

#4 Bustier

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Let's face it: Swimsuit tops can be kind of hard to fit into. They just never seem to ‘fit right.’ I guess you could say that's why we were overjoyed when we ran into swimsuit style number 4: The bustier. These tops are not only insanely comfortable but flirty and feminine, too. A winning combination, right? You could also supplement the bustier by wearing a cute crop top!

#5 Mix and Match

Can't find your matching bathing suit top or bottoms? No need to panic – mixing and matching different styles is actually a fashion statement for summer 2014 (I know a lot of you probably just sighed with relief). That said, feel free to combine totally different patterns and designs for a wild and awesome style that rocks the poolside.

#6 Bright Colors

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If you're going with a basic swimsuit, just keep one thing in mind: Bright and cold colors are all the rage this year. Whether you just want a simple one-piece or a string bikini, look for bright and bold colors. Some favorites include bright orange, pastel pink, and baby blue.

#7 Pattern

However, if you're feeling a bit more daring yet still want a basic swimsuit, we invite you to try a swimsuit with a wild and eye-catching pattern like the one here. Just like the crazy patterns you see on maxi skirts and crop tops, the same style works for your bathing suit. Plus it's totally fun to wear!

7 Mistakes Women Make in Bed

How’s your sexual confidence? Do you feel like you’ve got it all figured out and act like a total sex whiz when in the sack? All the moves are down, you totally know what you’re doing at all times and you’re actually good at all of it? Well, hate to break it to you but – there’s no chance in hell you’re THAT good.

Sexual pleasure is a very individual feeling, and we all have different preferences. So, being a sex goddess to one guy may actually mean being a complete bore for another.

While the truth hurts, even considering this, thing’s aren’t really that bad – getting to know someone sexually, and developing this great connection in bed as well as outside of it, is a huge part of any relationship. Of course, it’s going to take time and adjustment. But, mistakes are common, on both parts.

Women, for example, tend to do one or a combination of these things:

1. Faking Orgasms

Lying gets you nowhere! Apply this saying to sex and it becomes 100% accurate.

I don’t even get the logic behind this phenomenon that’s more than common. Like, if you’re faking it it’s obviously not doing it for you, and you’re actually ensuring it’ll never work for you by faking that it’s amazing.

If he thinks he’s making you come every time he’s going to do the same things every time – the things that are actually not getting you there at all. So, no lying!

2. The “Dead fish” Fiasco

You know what? If he wanted someone to just lay there while he gets his freak on by himself he’d get a blow up doll or something.

First – there is no way you’re having any fun if you’re not getting into it, participating and actually putting in some effort, and second – he’s not having an easy time either seeing that you’re completely uninterested in what’s going on.

Do not spend the whole time checking out the ceiling – be a part of the act, give him a little moan, some heavy breathing, anything. I’m not saying you should go and become an expert in dirty talk or anything, but at least be present – it’ll help you both.

3. Body Issues

Everybody’s got them, but the bed is no place for them to emerge and stop you from having the best possible time!

Sure you might be devastated about stretch marks or cellulite or wiggly thighs or fat ankles, but insisting on doing it exclusively in the pitch dark and under the covers is not the way to go. It’s kind of a mood killer.

Also, not wanting to lose the bra or the t-shirt 'cause you feel like your boobs are not up to par is the most ridiculous thing ever.

Let’s rationalize here – if he’s with you, he probably likes your body too, plus half the things you obsess about he’s not even aware of and that’s a fact.

On the other hand, he’s probably aware of the size of your breasts so that bra isn’t really fooling anyone. Part of being sexy is being confident and comfortable in your own skin, sure, that's not an easy thing to do. There are many ways you can look and then feel better when naked.

4. Keeping to the Routine

This goes for the positions, the amount of time it lasts, the lingerie, the foreplay, or lack thereof. And it’s not necessarily your fault, it’s something that both of you just kind of let happen 'cause it’s familiar, easy and rarely practiced.

You must do something about it. For example, spice it up with some sexy lingerie once in a while, break the streak of the good ol’ 15 minute sex routine with a quickie. Stuff like that will keep you both entertained and put in some diversity in your sex life.

5. Being a Prude

It’s perfectly fine that there are some things you just don’t do, some fantasies you will never actually want to act out and some lengths you just won’t go.

But, strictly saying “no” to every single suggestion or desire he might have is a total turn off.

Again, it’s not about fulfilling someone’s wishes – it’s simply about being open towards having some new experiences. I’m sure there’s something you can do that’s a bit out of the ordinary, but still not in the extreme that would make you feel great rather than uncomfortable.

6. Not Communicating

Men are not mind readers. You’ve gotta give him some pointers. Show him what feels good, what you like and how you like it. Tell him all that too. Don’t we all know that the road to pleasure for women is a bit rockier than a man’s? Yes we do, so, sending him on that road without any directions at all is not a very good idea, is it?

7. Always Taking Shotgun

Letting him take the wheel is okay too, but taking control yourself once in a while will not only blow his mind, but also get you the opportunity to take care of yourself while in charge.

6 Things Every Woman Should Try at Least Once (in Bed)

1. Be Selfish in Bed

Have sex like a man! No, wait, it's not fair. Have sex like a loser you slept with only once, and who did not care if you had an orgasm or not. For a change, this time your pleasure comes first. Tell your partner what you really want and at least this one time don’t even think if he’s enjoying it or not.

But remember, this selfishness should not become a habit (although it might be a tad bit addictive). Your partner is likely to be shocked or surprised by the change, because as some people would say: ‘A woman who knows what she wants in sex, is not even half as sexy as the one that dares to ask.'

2. Oh Yes!

Who would have guessed that one small tube of lubricant can do so much good to your sex life! There are many factors that can affect a woman's ‘natural lubrication': dehydration, pills, stress, pregnancy, antidepressants, and even breastfeeding. But it’s not because you enjoy sex any less. Using a lubricant increases pleasure, try and see for yourself!

3. Think about Doing Something Scandalous

Some women like to wear stockings and garters. Most is wearing sexy lingerie while pulling of a seduction act, but many women complain that sometimes these ‘props' are uncomfortable. If the sexy and sleek lingerie is not your choice, put on some shoes with high heels and a silk negligee – and go out with your Honey.

4. Watch Porn with Your Partner

Just as sex toys can be great for achieving mutual satisfaction, porn is also something you and your partner can enjoy together. Porn films can spice up your sex life and they are even better if you see them in company. It’s an instant turn on and who knows – maybe you’ll learn something new.

5. Practice Delayed Satisfaction

Ah, foreplay. Foreplay can last all day if you want it to. A couple that is in a long and stable relationship can easily forget those initial periods of seduction. Start the morning with warming up game. The sex does not have to happen right away, delay the satisfaction to the evening and then enjoy each other while continuing where you left off.

6. Stop Chasing an Orgasm

If in some cases you don’t achieve an orgasm, don’t perceive it as if it was the end of the world. Sometimes the chase and the stress of achieving an orgasm can exactly be the reason you didn’t have one. Sometimes you should just relax and focus on the sex itself, not the orgasm. Instead of the obsession about the destination, enjoy the ride.