Is the “Playboy Lifestyle” All It’s Cracked Up to Be? Here’s the Surprising Truth…
Imagine being in the best relationship of your life…
She’s sexy…
Adventurous…
Crazy about you…
And happy to do whatever you please.
Sounds pretty perfect, right?
Now imagine having that kind of relationship with 5…10…15 (!) women — what most people today would call an “open” relationship.
For a lot of guys, an “open” relationship is just a far-off fantasy…something most women would NEVER agree too…right?
Not so fast.
Meet Travers Beynon: The “Candyman”…
Travers Beynon is what most guys today are calling the “Modern Day Hugh Hefner.” A tycoon in the tobacco industry, the 44-year-old Australian “Candyman” has been married to his second wife for 7 years…
And he currently has 5 girlfriends. His Instagram is littered with photos of half-naked women lying on top of him…taking extravagant vacations…and generally living “the life.” According to Travers,
Girlfriends and wives are angels, sexual partners are goddesses, party girls are candy girls and ‘sub-misses’ are girls that make the party more interesting with costumes.”
So how does he do it? How does he maintain the lifestyle of a bachelor while staying married?
The bottom line: It’s all about perfecting the art of the “open relationship.”
Is is Possible for “Regular” Guys to Have Open Relationships?
The short answer:
Yes!
The long answer:
It’s possible if you’re able to separate sex from love. Because open relationships are, by definition, more complicated than a standard, one man to one woman relationship…there are a lot of complicated emotions involved.
Consider this scenario:
You’ve been dating a woman for 2 years, and she proposes an open relationship.
“SCORE!” You’re probably thinking. You get to f–k whoever you want…right?
Yes. But…so does the woman you’re dating. You get the benefit of bringing more women to bed — but can you handle the emotional impact of knowing she’s taking other men to bed too?
Most men aren’t sure how to answer this question until they’re actively taking part in an open relationship. And that’s fine, because this is a very difficult question to answer.
But if you know, right now, that the answer is “No,” then chances are you probably can’t handle an open relationship.
Though if you think you can handle it, there are 3 keys to successfully having an open relationship.
And here’s what they are:
1) Be honest about your intentions
Before you jump into an open relationship willy nilly, consider what you really want. Do you want the kind of relationship where:
- You and your partner have sex with whoever you want and don’t tell each other?
- You and your partner have sex with whoever you want, but you have to “approve” of the person first?
- You and your partner just have threesomes together?
- You can be with whomever you want, but your partner can only be with other women?
Clearly, there’s a lot to think about. And on top of that, she might not want the same thing you do. So if you’re going to have a successful open relationship, you’ll probably have to compromise a little.
For example, she might want to “approve” of the new women you bring home, but maybe you don’t want her to see them. Or perhaps she wants to be with other men, but you only want her to be with women, and only while you’re watching.
So if you both arrive at an agreement you’re happy with, you’ve won half the battle. Which brings me to the next step…
2) Communicate, communicate, communicate
The compromising doesn’t end after you agree on the “type” of open relationship you want. It’s important to check in with your partner regularly about both of you are feeling about it.
Maybe you thought you wanted to be with other women, but in reality, it’s less fun than you imagined. Or perhaps she’s getting jealous and doesn’t actually want an open relationship after all. If you or the woman you’re with aren’t happy with the arrangement, then your relationship will inevitably fall apart.
So if you want to avoid that, you have to be as open and honest as possible with her. This is exactly how Travers is able to stay married and maintain a healthy, open relationship with his wife. Not only was he honest about his intentions from the very beginning…
But both he and his wife continue to be honest with each other. No secrets. No lies. As Travers says,
What is funny is that so many men cheat on their wives and girlfriends. I was honest with my wife from Day 1.”
So if an open relationship is something both you and your partner want, nothing is more important than communicating with her on a regular basis. But that’s not the only reason Travers is able to maintain a marriage and have 5 girlfriends at once…
He’s clearly got some skills in the bedroom that keeps these girls coming back for more (and more, and more). What’s his secret?
Just check this out:
3) How to F–K Like a Rockstar: Use This “Playboy Secret”
So I’m talking to this young couple at a bar…”Ashley” and “Jeff.” They were celebrating their 6-year anniversary, so I asked how they kept the spark alive.
“Well…” They looked at each other and smiled…“We like having threesomes with other women.”
OHMYGOD. I had been with plenty of guys (and a few girls)…but never both at once. And I had always secretly wanted to have a threesome…
Like he was reading my mind, Jeff chimes in: “We were wondering if you’d want to maybe come back to our place…and see what happens?”
Back at their place, they offered me some expensive wine and we went to their bedroom. The bed was neatly made with lots of pillows…trendy art hung on the walls…they were clearly well-off.
Thing is, my nerves were distracting me from getting “in the mood”…what if I wasn’t good enough? What if things got “weird”? I had no clue what I was doing…
Then Jeff goes, “Relax. Lie down and close your eyes…let me take it from here.” Ashley kissed my neck while Jeff slid my dress off and moved down toward the foot of the bed…
And then…then…oh my f–king GOD. Whatever he was doing…well, let’s just say I forgot all about my nerves. I wasn’t even embarrassed that I woke up the neighbors…it was that damn good.
Afterward, while Jeff was taking a shower, I asked Ashley, “What Jeff did…does he have a name for it? I’ve never felt anything like that before…”
